Single Life

Being a woman is hard. There are so many sides to our lives and so many layers to our stories. From the mother of three to the single woman; to the career professional to the stay at home mom; to the entrepreneur to the activist- and to all the overlapping in between. They are all paving the way for the…

I’ve been abstinent for a little over five years. I remember when I first started telling people that I decided not to have sex before marriage. I received quite the range of reactions: First, there was complete shock: “Why would you ever do that?” and “Yooo, that’s crazy!” Next, there was doubt and disbelief: “Girl, you’re not going to be…

I grew up in an ol’ school Black church. There were church mothers with peppermints in their purses, men with shiny shoes and cufflinks, and morning services that lasted way too long. Outside of church, women wore the obligatory blue jean skirt down to their ankles and paired it with simple, flat white tennis shoes and a basic t-shirt. These…

The holiday season has a certain scent to it. You can smell the decorative butter cookies, peppermint candy canes and schnitzel with noodles (btw- I Googled that and turns out its chicken fried steak and pasta. Who knew?) Let’s not forget the eggnog lattes at Starbucks, work holiday parties and neighborhood homes lit up with (tasteful or not-so-tasteful) holiday decorations.…

It was 2012. I had just moved to the Bay Area from Los Angeles to start a new chapter in my life. I was sitting in the front room of my new apartment and just finished a phone call that left me feeling a bit frustrated and discouraged. Little did I know, that one phone call was the start of…

Welp. Here we go again. I know what this is. I wasn’t expecting it so soon. Dang homie. I have gone another year without a real date. Shocker, right? Not really. I’ve been through this before. (Remember my two-year period with no date, no kiss, no nothing?). While I don’t prefer these moments, it is what it is. I’ve surrendered…

I was scrolling through social media when I should have been somewhere writing. I knew I had no business being on there because, in a matter of minutes, I saw at least six announcements about wedding engagements. Six! I saw acquaintances from high school getting engaged, with kids in tow. I saw people I knew from church get engaged. I…

Dating presents more conundrums than I think I was mentally prepared for. Top of mind is splitting the bill when out on a date. What are the rules? What’s the protocol? Is “going-dutch” still a thing? I get a different response from every woman or man I speak with. I’ve noticed a large spectrum based on age, region and even…

I sat at a round table covered with a lavender tablecloth and decorated with a simple flower centerpiece. Six other women sat with me and we were preparing to share our prayer requests. Spring was in full bloom so the days were longer and the weather warmer. For the past four weeks, we met every Tuesday evening for a six-week…

It’s February and a lot of people are looking for love. This also means a lot of people are probably getting ghosted. Ouch, I know. For those unaware of the conundrum that is ghosting, good ol’ Google defines it as the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. That means no…